Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Unapolgeticly ME #WCW

I have learned and sometimes still struggle with not worrying about what others may think of me. I mean lets be honest you are taught this as a child and it's drilled in you as a preteen as you are working your way into finding yourself and where you fit in. I think I have had my share of identity crisis's but what is so beatufil is now after all those growing pains I have learned to love myself. I may not be the dress size I want to be currently, my lifestlye may not be the way I invisioned it in my dreams, but I am where I am and I am thankful. Other people's opinions sometimes hurt, because no matter what anyone says WORDS DO HURT! But not allowing it to consume you is the key. And with that said I leave you with this friends.."For you created my inmost being you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I AM FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made; your works are WONDERFUL I know that full well." Psalm 139:13-14

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Carmello Anthony a true Family Man

Carmelo Anthony former player for the New York Knicks has become a free agent, he recently did a interview where he stated that when making his decision his family is the biggest factor. "The average person just sees an opportunity to say, 'Melo should go here, Melo should go here, I think he should do this, I think he should do that,' " Anthony said. "But they don't take into consideration the family aspect of it, your livelihood, where you're going to be living, do you want your kids to grow up in that place, in that city, do I want to spend the rest of my career in that situation, in that city. All of that stuff comes into play. "My son goes to school; he loves it here. To take him out and take him somewhere else, he'd have to learn that system all over again, he'd have to get all new friends. And I know how hard it was for me when I moved from New York to Baltimore at a young age, having to work to try and make friends, and try to fit in."
I found this to be so down to earth to have a professional athlete speak so openly about this, it's not about the money, but how his child will do in a new environment. I personally can speak to this issue, my son has some sensory issues and delays. He needs to be eased into new environments, I think even if a child doesn't have special needs that it's imperative as a parent to prepare a child for a new experience. A great example is my children and I are moving into a apartment. My son and daughter have grown accustom to living in a house with their grandparents , thankfully my family owns the building I am moving into so I have been taking my children over to our new place and letting them take a few things over little by little, and we hang out over there for a few hours as the place gets prepped for our big move day. Now I know not everyone is blessed with being able to do this so here are a few helpful tips I found and a couple of my own on preparing a child for a new setting or routine. Give Fair Warning: Communicate with your child/ children well in advance that there are changes coming and continue to talk about it as time goes by Give Details: It's important to give as many details as possible so they can fully understand , WHY, WHERE, WHEN Have Empathy: LISTEN to your kids concerns and make sure they know their feelings are valid. Read about it: There are so many books on every situation possible- Divorce, moving, death, new baby, new school, taking a bus, making friends, using the bathroom, etc. Open Communications/Find the silver lining with preteens/ teenagers: This group can be tough, I believe it's important to keep the communication open about what changes are about to occur,again making sure that it's clear that their feelings are valid. For example:(Moving) Do some research on teen hangouts or after school/ weekend events for that age group, or making it a priority to let them visit or have friends from back home visit (can't afford to travel try Skype, it's free and being able to see the person you are talking to really makes you feel like you are there).

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Kendall Jenner - She's a Grown Woman now!

Kendall and Kylie Jenner hosted the MMVA awards in Toronto, Canada over the weekend. The streets are buzzing over 18 year old Kendall's show stealing Italian designer Fausto Puglisi white crepe gown, with heart stopping high splits. I personally think she looked beautiful, she's 18, and that's the only part of her body exposed. Do I think she could have had the slits sewn closed a couple of inches YES, Lord my eyes weren't prepared to see pelvis; but what everyday people need to understand is that 1. she is an adult 2. She is a model and clearly this is a off the runway look, this is not for the faint at heart Honey and it's definitely not RTW (Ready To Wear)- product that is mass produced, sold to the general public, and typically altered to flatter the everyday person's body and price point). Whether you like it or not she did exactly what she set out to do, made a statement, remains relevant and make a house hold name for herself! Tell me what you think of this look, I want to hear from you.. And for more of Fausto Puglisi's ornate pieces visit his beautiful site


( February 11, 2013) "It's been a long, long time coming, but I know a change's going to come. Oh yes it is!" Hello Hello!! I just read my old post and I relized I am just a few days over a year from my last post! "tisk tisk" So much has changed in my life. Single life was fun while it lasted, but I got swept off my feet and fell head over stiletto heels for my boyfriend Gary, and we have a GORGEOUS daughter, Brielle. My family is complete I now have one of each! That's what life is all about though, Change. I saw a commerical not to long ago and the message really stuck with me. The only constant/consistent thing in life is change. Now sometimes it can be bad other times it can be good. Me personally I feel all changes are an adjustment but I strongly believe all things work for a greater good! My change was becoming a mother for the 2nd time. I was excited to have my baby but after the new baby excitment settled down I got to thinking, what was my life plan going to be? I had already altered it once when I had my son, and decided that moving to NY and becoming a fashion whatever wasn't going to happen. I was a house wife to a work wife/mom, to a divorced college grad mom, to now new mommy all over again. I feel like I am having to consistently reinvent myself.Now that I am older the one thing that I am sure of is that I want my own business, be a phenomenal mother, and build a legacy for my munchkins! Time will tell what the future holds, I am just enjoying the many blessing along the road.